Tuesday, February 28, 2012

Out the Mouth of Babes...

We were driving in the car today and my 6 year old asked me why I didn't have a boyfriend. I didn't know how to answer that because I didn't want to get too deep with a 6 year old. I simply said because I don't. But it got me to thinking about why I don't have a boyfriend. I made a list:

  1. I haven't found anyone that I wanted to get close to.
  2. My last boyfriend made me skeptical of a relationship.
  3. I'm afraid of introducing anyone to my kids again.
  4. I don't want someone thinking that my kids want/need a father.
  5. I think I snore.
  6. I have horrible sleep habits.
  7. I'm super independent.
  8. I can't tolerate BS.
  9. Men get on my nerves after 30 days.
  10. I'm not ready                                  
So looking over this list, I got mad. Why in the hell is my 6 year old questioning me about my social life? I asked her and she said 'well my daddy has a girlfriend but you don't have a boyfriend'. I don't want to just have a boyfriend though. I'm too old for that crap. I will be 40 next year and I was once married. Boyfriend just aint gonna cut it. I want more, so I have to be patient.  

I don't even go anywhere to meet anyone so how can I really want a Man if I'm not putting myself out there. For the month of March I'm going to challenge myself to go out at least 4 times. I found some places that I would like to go to that will have the type of men that I would be interested in. If I have to go alone I will. I'm determined to do better with a social life. I used to be a party girl and now I'm just a party dud.                                                                                                      
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  1. avengers0524@February 29, 2012 at 4:24 AM

    I totally understand this here. At a family gathering one of my aunts (they are my age or 2-3 years older) sons asked me was I a lesbian? WTF! He was about 13 at the time and everybody got quiet and looked at me. Like number one I wasn't raised in the same state as them and so you all haven't seen ANY of my friends. And number two, if I did have a man, I would not bring him around yalls hating asses. And I know my dad's family, for him to have said that, it had to be discussed by ADULTS at some point. I was so freaking pissed, YA HEAR ME??!!

    It's like the tween and younger generation don't give us 30+ any respect if we don't have kids or have a man. Never mind I am an attorney, been working since I was 14, have traveled all over the world and have my own paid for car and house (none of which I ever talk about).

    Then don't get me started about funerals. Everyone is coupled up even the teenagers convince their baby daddy's or some thug to escort them in the church. But I always get the whole "Where your man at girl?"

    What gives????

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  2. HappytobeMeFebruary 29, 2012 at 9:58 AM

    I think that it bothered me more that she observed it. I mean at 6 I didn't pay any attention if my mom had a boyfriend or not.
    Kids nowadays are just different breeds of kids than we were.

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  3. UnknownFebruary 29, 2012 at 10:51 AM

    I feel you. Children today come out much more astute than we did. I sit back in awe sometimes when I realize how much they understand. Just keep doing what you are doing and let the Lord handle the rest!
    H-Town

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  4. melinlaFebruary 29, 2012 at 2:29 PM

    My 16 year old told me that I should be dating for companionship... WTF Kids are very observant... I can't be mad. she's leaving for college in a year and doesn't want me to be alone....

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